About me
I've had a fortunate life. I escaped a small town in rural Texas (pop. 35) when I was 17. A few years later, I won a scholarship to the University of London, and spent 13 years living and working in England, Hong Kong and Australia as an advertising copywriter and editor.
During this time, I daydreamed of submissive scenes, but assumed it would always be a fantasy. So I married someone with zero interest. But in my mid-30s, after we split up, I decided to go for it. The Web was waiting for people like me.
Over the years, I have had three D/s flavored relationships of varying degrees of quality. The most recent was the best. J. fully understood the complexities and responsibilities of his role as my novella's dominant does.
I am a quintessential INFJ, although I think the Keirsey Idealist Counselor profile describes me much more accurately. I love long-distance train travel, hiking, cats, and am guilty of playing Grand Theft Auto online way too much.
The complexities of kink
Those with the desire to dominate or submit to a lover may or may not feel guilty or ashamed. But it's not easy to meet Mr or Ms Right, especially if you're looking for more than sex.
To complicate matters, even practiced kinksters often find it difficult to describe why they want to spank someone, or be tied up, or whatever they need to do to be fulfilled...you get the drift.
Some of the articles I've published within my blog discuss BDSM-related topics. (Some are not. I blather about just about anything.) If you have anything to add, I welcome your input.
I've also begun to compile and list sites that BDSM enthusiasts may find interesting. Scroll down to check them out.
While there are several websites for BDSM enthusiasts that include dating forums, I can't handle the inevitable barrage of hardcore photos. And I was surprised to find that scammers will pay for a premium subscription on sites like fetish.com so they to hunt for victims more efficiently. The only dating site that seems to have potential (and almost no dick pics) is called Feeld.
Web Sites & Articles
Half a Million Kinksters Can't Be Wrong
An Evolutionary Psychological Approach Towards BDSM This study found that BDSM practitioners often have higher levels of well-being, better attachment security, and lower neuroticism than the general population.
The Origins of Shibari There's much more to shibari than what most of us think. The erotic elements first came to light during the Edo period of Japan's history.
